The thought and feeling that you were born in a different body/with the wrong gender, can be hard. So what do you do if you feel like you were born in the wrong body? And what comes next if you want to pursue transitioning yourself into the right body?

Accepting your gut feeling can be hard (sounds silly right?), but it's true. Sometimes accepting yourself can be the hardest thing. For some it is instant, for others it may take years, or even a lifetime. The process can be very overwhelming. Some people may never even get there, which is okay. Regardless of where you stand, it is important to know that you are not alone.

It is also important to know that transitioning is not about courage. That narrative can get old really fast for someone who is thinking/in the process of transitioning. It is also not about the shots of hormones or testosterine or the surgeries. It is about you, and following your heart and mind. And f*** what anybody else thinks! Do what makes you happy! The road to get there may be rough, but know that some of the best journeys have speedbumps and roadblocks.

Before we jump into some helpful hints, we must first address what transgender "means." I use quotations on means, because transgender can mean a lot of things to different people. I also believe that you do not need to be categorized into anything; if you feel as though you were meant to be male, then damn it, you are a male! Same goes for female! Anyways, the definition of transgender is "an unmbrella term for people whose gender identity differs from their sexual assigned at birth." 

Here are some helpful tidbits if you are thinking about transitioning:

  • People will surprise you. Coming out with a "new" gender can help you quickly see who your true friends are.

  • Prepare yourself for (micro)aggressions. People constantly making remarks about how much you have changed since the last time they saw you, or always talking about being transgender, etc. Although they most likely mean it in a positive way, it is a constant reminder that in some way you are "different."

  • Consider going to thereapy. Although, I believe you should not have to talk to a therapist to prove that you were born in the wrong body; the support system of having someone to talk to is very helpful. The process of transitioning can be incredibly emotional, so it is important to take care of your mental health in the process.

  • Make sure you stay well rounded. So, what do I mean by this? Transitioning can easily consume your life, which is why it is crucial that you maintain other hobbies and interests throughout this process. Read a book, listen to lots of music, be active, do whatever, just allow yourself to "take a break."

  • Be patient. Transitioning yourself takes time. And I am not just reffering to shots and surgeries. Even if you do not opt to get hormones/testosterone and surgery (which is 110% okay) the process still takes time... For yourself, the people around you, the changes physically, mentally, etc.

  • Transitioning can be a huge financial endeavour... even if you do not get shots and surgery. New clothes, different daily routines, etc. There is also insurance (which only a halfdul cover trans :( ), which will cover healthcare benfits, medications, lab tests, and docotr's visits. There is also changing your name. And more. Begin saving NOW!

  • Transitioning will not solve all of your problems. Although truly feeling in your own body is wonderful, there will always be that, "one day" mentality in our lives. You will most likely still have anxiety if you did before, still forget to turn off the lights when leaving the house, etc.

  • If you are thinking about transitioning into a female, be prepared to face a tough beauty culture. Woman are constantly torn down and made to feel inadequate because we do not fit into the societal "beauty norms," such as the airbrushed and photoshopped images we constatnly are exposed to.

  • Also, if you are thinking of transitioning into a female, say goodbye to male privilege. Although hopefully this will change one day, it currently is the harsh reality of life.

  • With all of that being said, it is pertinent to DO YOU!!! Do what makes YOU happy!! Everything else will fall into place. Remember that every road has it bumps, and that is okay.

Very similar to the previous tidbits, here are some helpful thoughts to keep in mind while you are in the evergoing process of transitioning:

  • Accept your true self! This process is emotional, but you are becoming who you were meant to be. Embrace it and know that everything is going to be okay!

  • Come out to your support system!

  • If you are wanting to get shots and/or surgeries, start researching what will work best for you mentally, physically and financially.

  • Start working out and embrace your "new" voice (consider voice change therapy)!

  • Meet with a qualified therapist! According to the HBGDIA WPATH Standards of Care, you must see a gender therapist in order to recieve hormones/terstoterone or for undergoing surgeries. It is also a great resource for your mental health!

  • Develop a treatment plan (if you plan on getting shots and/or surgeries).

  • Look into getting a new wardrobe! Exciting!

  • Choose and change your name!

  • Have your gender changed legally!

  • For FTM consider getting top surgery, hysterectomy (removal of the uterus), and bottom surgery.

  • For MTF consider thyroid cartilage reduction surgery (Adam's apple), breast implants, face feminizaiton surgery (a lot less complex than you think!), and vaginoplasty.

  • Protect yourself against discrimination; family, friends, work, etc. Educate those around you and familiarize yourself with local help centers and support groups.

To learn more, check out this awesome transgender health quiz! We also undertstand that a lot of these tips are a lot easier said than done. If you need any help with any of the listed above (or not listed), please feel free to message us. WE ARE HERE FOR YOU. All the love.