My name is Isaiah Dancy and I'm a 19 year old nonbinary transmasculine blaxican guy who uses they/he pronouns.
So, first in 8th grade I came out as a lesbian. That was a huge challenge because I was born and raised in a religious cult that was NOT okay with that. I was kicked out a couple of times and really struggled with guilt about my sexuality.
I had always been really "tomboy" /masculine and I hated being a traditional girl. When I was in my senior year of high school I learned about different gender identities and realized that there was actually something for the way I was feeling. At first I came out as straight up trans guy and was again met with opposition. But then I discovered the nonbinary identity and that really resonated with me because I don't fully identify with men and male culture. But I still knew that I wanted to present male/masculine.
It wasn't until a couple of months ago, I was hot boxing, and I realized that I was pretty gender neutral/fluid emotionally and in my heart and the way I think and interact with people/women specifically, but physically was completely male.
I started hormones on 4.5.16 and have experienced some changes already and couldn't be happier. I'm planning on getting top surgery too. My advice to trans people is to just focus on yourself because that's all you have at the end of the day.
There is so much self discovery and the journey is so long and can be tough so just focus on what makes you happy and comfortable. Also I know not everyone can be out for safety reasons so just keep your head up and you're still valid and part of the fam if you're stealth living! Much love ✊