USING THE RIGHT PRONOUNS
Typically when referrfing to someone you assign a gender to them. However, what happens if someone does not identify with their assigned birth gender or has no gender at all?
Use a different pronoun that they prefer. Such as; he, she, his, hers, they, theirs, ze*, hir**.
Unfortunately, we often take for granted how necessary pronouns are, because they are so engrained in our langauge. When it boils down to using the CORRECT pronouns, however, that can make a huge impact in someone's life. Although we may not mean to, when we address someone with the wrong pronoun, that can be seen as invalidating who they are.
People who identify outside of the strict gender binary, are just as human as the rest of us! It is also important to remember that nobody knows more about someone's gender identity than they do... which means it is NOT up to you to decide what to call them.
So, what does it mean when someone wants to be called by a different pronoun?
For many people, gender is simple and clear cut; female and male. However, many indivudals do no identify with their associated biological sex or "apparent" gender expression (genderfluid, bigender, agender, etc.). With that being said, more gendered pronouns such as "he and "she" typically uncomfortable and limiting. This is where other helpful pronouns come in (see above ^)!
If you mess up one day and say the wrong pronoun to someone, its okay. However, apologize, correct yourself, and move on. After that, make sure to use the right pronoun!
It is also important to know that pronouns are NOT difinitive. It is important to check in every now and again and make sure that the pronoun you are using with them is still the pronoun they want to be called by.
We also undertstand that a lot of these tips are a lot easier said than done. If you need any help with any of the listed above (or not listed), please feel free to message us. WE ARE HERE FOR YOU. All the love.
ze*: pronounced "zee"
hir**: pronounced "here"