Coming out can be difficult... One may even ask, "Is it necessary that I even come out?" Well, that truly depends on you. Would you feel more comfortable if people knew before anything or rather that they find out when something happens? Either works. 

Below are some helpful tips to keep in mind when/if you plan to "come out."

  • First and foremost, it is important you do not feel pressured into doing so. You have to want to do this yourself and not because someone else is pressuring you into doing it.

  • Know that you are making a brave choice and regardless of how you feel immediately you will be much happier in the long run!

  • Unfortunately because not everybody is as loving/caring/accepting as we want, you must be prepared for a negative reaction. However, you should not tolerate any intolerance. You are you, and you are beautiful! Don't ever let anyone ever tell you otherwise!

    • Being gay, lesbian, bi, trans, etc. does not define your whole life; it is just one part of who you are!​

  • A lot of people will ask you a lot of questions. Be ready.

    • Some may ask questions because they are afraid of how people will treat you. Treat these questions seriously (because unfortunately, these are real concerns.)

  • Are you coming out to people that are religious and scared how they might react? Refer to this article.

  • Please note... If you are in a situation where you believe you could be treated unfairly (i.e. disowned, kicked out of the house, etc.) wait until you are in a safe and independent environment before coming out. 

    • However if you find yourself in this unfortunate situation, click here for some helpful resources.

  • How you come out is also an important detail to note. Try and be relaxed (even though, yes, this can be a very difficult thing to do).

    • Even though it may not be your ideal way of coming out, consider writing a letter.​

  • Because coming out can be very difficult, be sure the first person you come out to is a close friend or relative to you (generally someone who is very supportive of you).

  • Once you have gotten past telling your first person, it hopefully will begin to come easier for you. After this you can start coming out more casually to your friends.

  • Give it time!